Yesterday was a good day. I had some reservations as to what to expect because I had been awake most of the night before. We , being my mother and myself , have been in a bit of a funk since Daddy died in January. We haven’t been moping around buried in grief , although I have my times and I’m sure she does also , but more like we don’t know what to do. Daddy’s care WAS what we did and now that he is gone we are trying to establish a routine or find creative ways to spend our days.
Mom is eighty five years young and is battling her own health problems. Not only that , this is the first time out of those eighty five years that she has not been caring for some one else. Whether it was her four children , one of her sisters , her mother , her mother-in-law , her sister-in-law who died with ALS and most recently her husband and partner for sixty one years.
I want to cram as much life into whatever time she has left as her body can handle. We have done some things like going to the duck ponds to try to spot the resident bald eagle but we have yet to go on any major adventures. So I came up with date night.
I picked a night in the week where there is nothing that either on of us have committed to on the television. Sounds petty I know but you take your entertainment where you can find it. Monday was out because I have become a follower of The Following. A show about serial killers. That’s a glimpse into my dark side I guess.
Tuesday night is out because Mom is in love with entire cast of NCIS. If Monday presented my dark side then Wednesday showcases my lighter. Modern Family is without a doubt the funniest thirty minutes of the week to me and I think that laughter is important to ones well being.
So that gave us Thursday night. It did my heart good to see Mom getting the black beans ready for the taco salads we had planned for the menu. Not that I needed help with the preparation , I’m a pretty good cook , but because she remembered and was looking forward to date night.
The date was to be something unusual for us to eat and a movie off of pay per view. Okay , I can see you rolling your eyes but before you judge me too harshly this is the best way for us to watch a movie. I don’t have to worry about being in a strange place and Mom having an asthma attack or walking to the bathroom in a dark theater without pushing the pause button.
We selected the movie Argo and enjoyed watching it very much. We laughed together and gasped together and cheered together. We even high fived when the movie was over and made the commitment to do it again next week.
This is the first routine we have created since we lost Daddy and I find myself smiling recounting the evening. I hope she is looking forward to next Thursday as much as I am.
I also feel like this the first step we have taken to reclaim our lives from the loss of the man we both loved so much.